This can be an overwhelming task filled with emotions such as anger, sadness and fear. These emotions can make it hard to communicate, which is why it’s important to plan your discussion in advance. Choose a time when both of you are calm, sober, and free from distractions. Here are four tips for talking to someone you love:
Don’t wait. You don’t need to wait for rock bottom—such as getting arrested, losing their job, getting sick, or someone getting hurt. If you see something, say something.
Be genuine. Make it clear that you care deeply for the person and are scared for their well-being. Have specific instances in mind to point out, of how their addiction has affected you and or your family. Share your own feelings honestly.
Listen actively. Hear them out, without arguing or disagreeing. It’s important your loved one feels heard and understood. The more they’ll view you as an ally and be willing to hear your thoughts.
Be ready for denial. People tend to react defensively or angrily, refusing to discuss their drug use. A lot of individuals experience shame when confronted and won’t be willing to admit a problem exists. Don’t Argue! simply bring up the issue again later. Also, avoid lecturing, threatening, bribing, or punishing the person. Using anger or emotional appeals will only heighten their shame and may push them further.
Don’t expect to resolve the issue in one talk. This will probably be the first of many. Overcoming addiction is a journey that often requires multiple conversations for them to acknowledge they have a problem, which is the beginning of the path to recovery.
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